My bestest friend, my right hand man lost the love of her life on the 30th of November 2016. Not only was the lady her grandmother but her best friend & basically her second mother.
She was therefore a big part of my life also. She done anything and everything for everyone in her life and I'm so honoured to have met such a beautiful kind lady.
In 2008 she was told she had breast cancer for the first time. I was not a part of her life at this point but I couldn't imagine what my best friend was going through at the age of 11.
She battled through it due to her positive attitude to life & because of how strong she is. After the all clear everyone was over the moon. I've had the honour to go to every family party possible because without doubt Barb always made me feel welcome and as if I was her very own granddaughter.
In September 2016 she was told the Cancer had returned and we were all gutted. But she was positive, as always telling everyone not to worry, she'd beat it again. After a few weeks she started to feel very unwell and could barely walk with pain to her shoulders & hip. I remember going to visit her at home. She could barely move from her chair but she was still offering to make us all tea & scones.
She had further tests & the day came when I was at work. I received a text from Luce saying I needed to pop over to see her Nan tonight with her as we needed to "talk". I was nervous. I couldn't think what we had to talk about apart from the normal chit chat.
As I pulled up outside Barb's house Luce broke the news that her Nan had terminal bone cancer & she'd never be cured. That moment was heart breaking. The kindest, most thoughtful lady was told she'd have a few months to live when she has so much life left in her. Life wasn't fair.
Shortly after this day she had a bad turn & was taken to the Prospect Hospice where she was cared for so well. I'd go up and see her as much as I could with Luce & her family. She always asked how I was doing... & was my health good even though she was the one with terminal cancer. Every time I saw her she was still on top of the world, talking about the times we would have when she would be well enough to go home & the holiday we'd be having in 2017 for mine & Luce's 21st birthday.
Unfortunately that time didn't come. Out of know where over one weekend she'd deteriorated so bad. I was on FaceTime to her one Saturday evening and the following day she was in a coma. I was gutted. I didn't get to say my proper goodbyes and tell her how much I loved her while she was awake and still in good health.
It got to the Monday and she was still seriously ill. Her family were told she had days left. On the final night before she passed I went up to the Hospice with Luce to say my goodbyes. I had never seen anyone seriously ill before and it was so overwhelming but I was so honoured to say my goodbyes to someone I cared for so so much. Listening to my best friend read her Nan her goodbye letter broke me even more. But Barb squeezed our hands every now & again. She could hear us.
People might say "how can you love her, she isn't your Nan" but she was more than that. She was a diamond. I will never forget any of the memories we shared.
The morning after I visited she passed away with Luce by her side. I went to work and spent the whole day in tears. Then left early to be with my best mate.
The funeral was beautiful. We all gave her the best send off. I just wish things could have been different. Cancer is dreadful & someone like Barb never deserved to get it once. Let alone twice.
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